Like the natural disaster it is named after, Emotional Tsunamis are capable of exerting lasting damage to a relationship.
Defined as sudden and huge waves of anger, fear and anxiety, Emotional Tsunamis are easily overlooked because of the invisible effects it has on us. Towns prone to physical tsunamis have warning systems, therefore avoiding the devastation of Emotional Tsunamis is not impossible.
In couple therapy, the most important initial objective is to establish a sense of safety and a collaborative alliance. The empathic relationship allows clients to feel safe enough to reveal their vulnerabilities. Validation of feelings by the therapist helps calm each partner’s anxiety and to some degree, soothes the hurt of not being heard by the partner.
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